About Paul Elmore
Hi. I'm Paul.
I'm a counselor in Portland, OR, specializing in Sexual Abuse Recovery and Sexual Addiction. You can find out more about my education and experience here.
Podcast
Podcast Episode 13—Listening To Your Gut
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Wouldn’t it be nice if we had an early warning system that alerted us BEFORE we made mistakes? I believe that we do have something like that, we’ve just learned to ignore it. Our feelings and intuition are great tools that can be used to keep us safe. When we have that uncomfortable feeling or that nagging doubt it is our conscience trying to warn us.
My Daughter learned this lesson recently as she was asked out by a boy from her school. Enjoy the latest Podcast.
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Magic Feather Problems
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Have you ever had that thing that you clung onto so tightly that when it was lost you sort of lost yourself as well? It is a very common issue for most of us. Often that is a sign that we have are using that thing to give us our sense of value. We have an EXTERNAL source of value.
The problem with an external source of value is that it is very difficult to control. It can get lost, or compromised and then we are lost ourselves.
Listen to this 3:30 clip talking about how to move from an external source of validation to an INTERNAL source of validation. (P.S. Sorry for the sound quality. The mic was a little smooshed.)
Preexisting Negative Beliefs
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Failure often confirms a pre-existing negative belief we hold of ourselves. That is why many of us fear failure so much. If we can look at those beliefs and some how learn to change them, then current failures and mistakes won’t be such a problem anymore.
The following is a 5 minute audio clip from a recent Failure 101 class talking more about this concept. Enjoy.
