Paul Elmore

Children Are Responsible For Everything

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Starting at the age of about 4 we enter into a phase where we believe that we are responsible for everything that happens around us. It is called ego-centrism. Being ego-centric is our way of understanding our world and it is a perfectly normal phase of development.

But what happens when something bad happens to us during that stage? Naturally, we believe it is our fault and are somehow responsible. Its the little girl who won’t eat her peas at dinner one night because they are yucky. The next night her parents tell her that they are planning on getting a divorce. In an attempt to make her world safer and more secure, she promises her parents that she will eat all her peas and that will make them not get a divorce.

We grow into adults carrying some of that responsibility for the painful things that happened to us. Part of the growing up process is learning what truly is our responsibility and what we need to let go of and see more accurately.

Click on the play arrow below to listen to a 6 minute explanation of this principle.

Two Important Things About Kids

How To Talk “The Talk”

Talking To Your Kids About Sex

Talking to kids about sex is not easy for a lot of parents. They feel embarrassed, dirty and/or “sinful” when discussing such things. Other parents may be lacking specific information or be confused on just how much to talk about. This class will help you address the following issues:

  • The importance of safe sexual conversations.
  • How to neutralize the embarrassment around “dirty words”.
  • When should I have “THE TALK” with my child.
  • What does a basic “Sex Talk” look like.
  • Practical and safe ways to talk to your kids about pornography.
  • How parents can deal with their own painful sexual experiences.
  • Question-and-Answer time to address any specific issues and give practical hands-on advice to parents.
  • Because of the nature of the topics covered, the class is best suited for adult attendance only.

Scheduled Classes

Currently, there are no classes scheduled. If you would like to host this class at your church or group, please contact Paul at 503-863-4074 for more information.

Sexploration

Help Your Teen Experience Healthy Sexuality

We live in a culture that puts more and more pressure on our teens to be highly sexual. At the same time, teens are experiencing internal pressures from their own awakening sexuality. As parents, how do we help guide and and direct all of this sexual energy?

SEXploration is a class that will help parents understand the importance of becoming proactive in their teens sexual development and explore the world of sexuality together. The class will show parents and teens how to embrace their sexuality while still maintaining their morals and value systems.

Format

Presented to teens and parents at the same time, SEXploration is designed to foster communication and interaction between both generations. Several practical projects are suggested to make the information as relevant as possible. For those that attend, its guaranteed to generate lots of questions and conversations.

Scheduled Classes

Currently, there are no classes scheduled. If you would like to host this class at your church or group, please contact Paul at 503-863-4074 for more information.

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