Have you ever had those feelings that you just didn’t want to be exposed? You wanted to keep them wrapped up inside… contained… controlled… invisible. One of the tools of choice to keep everything neat and tidy is to use our physical bodies—our muscles—to keep everything wrapped up. By keeping our bodies tight, strong, rigid, and constricted we are actually able to hold back the tears, the anger, the desire to just run away and escape. Its like standing the middle of a rapidly moving river trying to hold back the current. Living for long periods in this state starts to wreak havoc on our health. Being this wound up and restricted makes us physically exhausted, causes stress headaches, neck ache, back aches, stomach problems, bowel problems, auto-immune disorders, and a whole bunch more.
The solution? Finding a safe place to let it out. I know that sounds fairly juvenile, but its true. We have our emotions for a reason. We feel what we feel. Adults spend a lot of time worrying about if we should feel. Kids don’t worry so much about that. Let yourself feel what you feel. Look on the emotions with curiosity. Worry about why they are there later. Once you get comfortable having feelings and moving through them you’ll experience much more freedom because you don’t have to fight the current anymore.