When you are emotionally hurting there are lots of things you can do that will help you.
But there are also lots of things that can hurt you.
One of the biggest things is letting your problems identify you.
“…with emotional upheavals of this sort we typically do a funny thing. We let the incident define us… We completely identify with the problem.
With a rash we say, “I have a rash,” not “I am a rash.”
With an episode of sadness we do the exact opposite. We say, “I am depressed” instead of “I have sadness.” This is a huge difference and a huge problem.
The following is a mind-shifting article that every person who has been diagnosed with some “mental illness” or stuggles with emotional problems should read and share. It is written by Eric Maisel, Ph.D. and is taken from Psychology Toda (Link to original article).
Can You Be Mentally Healthy and Hurting?
Let’s say that you’ve done a lot of personality work, growth work, and healing work on yourself and you feel that emotionally you’re in pretty good shape. Then something unfortunate happens. You’re hit with an episode of sadness, an incident of anxiety, a period of overwhelm, a stint of confusion, a bout of malaise, a meaning crisis, a week of upset. As much work as we do on ourselves, these events still do happen.
These emotional changes make themselves felt in very powerful and painful ways, just as a broken leg or a severe rash would. But with emotional upheavals of this sort we typically do a funny thing. We let the incident define us. We don’t “have a bout of sadness,” we “are depressed.” We completely identify with the problem. With a rash we say, “I have a rash,” not “I am a rash.” With an episode of sadness we do the exact opposite. We say, “I am depressed” instead of “I have sadness.” This is a huge difference and a huge problem.
Our current model of mental health and mental illness prevents us from speaking subtly or correctly about human emotional states. It misleads us on purpose into believing that when we experience emotional pain we have become “mentally ill.” The truth is quite different. We may be essentiallymentally healthy but dealing with a profound emotional problem, just as we may be essentiallyphysically healthy but dealing with a broken leg or a severe rash. “I am mentally healthy but currently experiencing emotional pain” is a very different reality from “I have the mental disorder of depression.”