Abuse and traumatic events are not stored in our brains the same way everyday common occurances are stored. Daily living is stored as a narrative, or a story, that we can retell to others. Traumic or abusive situations are stored primarily in the sensory parts of our brain—the parts that deal with physical and emotional systems. When scary things are stored in those areas it is not uncommon to be incapable of finding words to describe the level of fear and pain. There just aren’t words that can capture just how scary things really were.
Does that mean you’re stuck with those feelings? Definitely Not! Within a counseling relationship a trained counselor will help you find ways to access and deal with those disturbing feelings without becoming overwhelmed or lost in those feelings. There are many tools at a counselor’s disposal to finally deal with the haunting memories.