… “Even though I know you have all sorts of flaws and and foibles, I CHOOSE to commit the rest of my life to helping you become a better person so you no longer have to wrestle with those things. I know it will cost me something. I know that your flaws are going to hurt me. But it is my privilege to endure the pain if it will help you become whole again.”
That type of marriage is spent trying to out-give each other.
It is a lifetime together filling up each other’s cup till both of you overflow with love and acceptance.
It’s a marriage where you slide into the grave sideways, thoroughly used up, battered and bruised, but saying, “Man, what a ride.”